Posts by Aussie Oz

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marrying younger spouses

by ssn587 in

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my wife passed away 2 years ago we had been married over 30 years, i have since remarried and my new wife is younger than 3 of my children from my first marriage.

i just wondering if there are any more like me out there.

i stay in excellent shape for my age, work out almost daily eat good and have absolutely no medical problems or at least none i can do anything about, bad knees, but my vitals are excellent, and i am known as the teenage because of them when i have my yearly medical checkup.. so was wondering if there are others out there like me, and what some may think about it, just for the record i am extremely happy once again, and we have a 18 month boy who delights me, have a whole new outlook on fatherhood and child raising.

Aussie Oz

One day i will be old(er) and she may have to wipe my arse, maybe she will get ill and it will be the other way, who knows. It simply does not matter.

When she sees women her age enjoying freedom, it just might matter. My dad's wife resented the hell out of his helplessness. We all wonder if she was really "outside on the patio" when he died in the recliner. It's possible that she was standing right there with him and watched him take his last breaths and did nothing to help him. She was afraid his broken hip injuries were going to eat up all of their money

Sorry, Flying high, but no.

My wife is now 33 and I am 50, and far from seeing other women enjoying 'freedom' she sees them getting bogged down and drained by raising babies. She feels absolutly free, free to not only be the person she really is, because i place no bounds on her, but free to spend all day everyday pursuing her goals in art and music etc.

And so what if i get sick and old? what the hell does AGE have to do with that? What about equal age couples where at the point they should be taking it easy, one gets a serious illness and wastes away, draining the life out of their 50 year old wife? Sucking up the finances when ill?

And what if when i retire at 65 she develops breast cancer at 48? What then flying high? Then my retirement may well be spent looking after her till she meets an early grave and leaves me alone and broke?

What has age got to do with that?

It can happen to anybody, anytime, and equal age couples do NOT have the monopoly on health nor happiness.

Sometimes the most compatable person you may ever meet just happens to be of a different generation, and I for one, was certainly not going to walk away from that because of a silly notion of ageism.

Oz

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marrying younger spouses

by ssn587 in

jw
friends

my wife passed away 2 years ago we had been married over 30 years, i have since remarried and my new wife is younger than 3 of my children from my first marriage.

i just wondering if there are any more like me out there.

i stay in excellent shape for my age, work out almost daily eat good and have absolutely no medical problems or at least none i can do anything about, bad knees, but my vitals are excellent, and i am known as the teenage because of them when i have my yearly medical checkup.. so was wondering if there are others out there like me, and what some may think about it, just for the record i am extremely happy once again, and we have a 18 month boy who delights me, have a whole new outlook on fatherhood and child raising.

Aussie Oz

Speaking only for myself here...

After my divorce i vowed NEVER to marry again, let alone live with another woman. After dating (some for longer than others) women older than myself, younger than myself and the same age, one thing i did know was that i was never going to be daddy to someone elses children. I simply couldnt and wouldnt face raising someone elses children when i was not able to help raise my own.

So that left the dating pool a lot emptier in my mid forties.

But, as you know, i remarried indeed. To a woman who was not even born until after i had left home. Sometimes thats a good laughing point i might add. She was 27 and I was 44 when we hooked up, but I had known her (but not interested in her at all) from when she was 24. I was not looking for a 'daughter' nor she a 'daddy'. She just wanted someone to love her for who she was and I just wanted the same. We were both sick of being judged by people as broken and damged goods.

There is no 'power' over her. She was a women not a girl, and had been through her own shit enough to not take any from me! She completes me. If I lost her there would not be another. The only ones who's opinion would have mattered was her family, who, didnt raise so much as an eyebrow.

We are both aware and have always been so, of the 'age gap' but their is no generation gap in play. We simply are who we are, we enjoy each others differences. I bring to relationship more life experience in some things and she life experiances that i never had, I have helped her learn to be more self discaplined and money savvy, she has taught me to be more patient and openminded. I think sometimes i have learned far more from her than she from me...

We do not and will never have children together. That was the deal on the first day we hooked up, it was not negotiable and it was her choice to stay. She does not regret that. her life is full and happy, she enjoys being 'step mother' to two teenagers who likewise adore her. She has nephews and neices... her interests and passions are in art and music, not babies.

One day i will be old(er) and she may have to wipe my arse, maybe she will get ill and it will be the other way, who knows. It simply does not matter. There is no guarentee that two people of the same age will live long and happy and die at 99 one month between each other just because of some age unity.

I might live to 100 and she to 83.

The only people who think it 'sick' or 'not right' are those who obviously are not in that situation. Sometimes we fall in love with who we fall in love with.

So, if it works for you it works and who the hell is anyone else to place judgement on that?

Oz

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For those using Photoshop from Adobe

by SadElder in

what is your take on the latest from adobe and their lease only option for future versions of their software?

pay the monthly fee or lose the use of the program..

Aussie Oz

Its all about the money

If there was not more money to be made in 'leasing' software they wouldnt do it.

As far as i am concerned they are just looking for new ways to rip us all off more.

Oz

ps. We use CS3

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NEW video on Youtube MUST SEE! the elder's meeting is ridiculous!

by Newly Enlightened in

brother of the hawk, newly enlightened & gojira, recorded an elder's meeting on 5/7/03.

both does a great job of defending me and making the elders look foolish!.

thank you raypublisher/jj and jwstruggle for the awesome job you did on it.. follow up story was not recorded but we will post it here hopefully over the weekend.. enjoy, it's pretty hilarious how they try to control us and come after me on a work of fiction!.

Aussie Oz

''uhh, i noticed words like....DAMN''!?

what the hell, these guys are REALLY still in 1950 arent they!

Oz

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Biggest issue effecting apostates

by joe134cd in

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i got to thinking today & you know what i think the single biggest issue effecting apostates are.

its they cannot unite and this is what gives the watchtower the upper hand.

what needs to happen (and quite honestly i don't think it will)they all have to come under one common body.

Aussie Oz

No Joe.

Did you miss what happened when some (since left) members here decided to do just what you speak off?

Trainwreck...

Oz

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Is the U.S. headed toward financial ruin? Your opinions please....

by tresdecu in

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not trying to sound like a conpiracy nut...but just read this article:.

http://www.moneynews.com/archives/trump-aftershock-american-economy/2012/11/06/id/462985?promo_code=103fc-1.

is this just a lot of talk?

Aussie Oz

I would say most governments are bankrupt already, trading while insolvent, borrowing more than they can can repay. One day the creditors will come calling... I read an interesting report the other day, that outlined that most if not all civilizations have a life span of 250 years on average It is niave to think that our current crop of 'civilization' should last longer than any other. Sooner or later we will be taken over by another, wiped out or assimilated... By whom? Thats a matter for much conjecture i guess! Oz

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Does the WTS get help from a PR company or Rep-improvement agency?

by oppostate in

sometime back when the cover of the wt study edition returned to just a tower, and the km's and wt's for the month were color matched... there were rumors in the spanish language extj forum that the wts was using a german pr contractor to update its image.. the internet being the worst of all evils for the wts would they consider using a service like brandyourself, reputationchanger.com or reputation.com to whitewash its image online?.

is there any evidence of them getting help from a pr company or rep-improvement agency?.

Aussie Oz

I would say that everything to do with JW.Org version 2 screams outside help

but evidence?

Nope

Oz

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Husband has joined me in being inactive.

by Julia Orwell in

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that's right, and it's great!

i don't know exactly why because he hasn't turned apostate and still seems to believe jw things.

i don't feel comfortable in asking him why he doesn't go to meetings anymore for some reason, or find out what he believes and if the things i've told him bout ttatt influenced his decision.

Aussie Oz

That sounds great!

and remember that TERRY said:

Mr T. O’BRIEN

— People are free to be Jehovah’s Witnesses, or if at any time they wish to discontinue for

whatever reason, that is a personal choice. If the person simply decides to become inactive and no longer

associate with Jehovah’s Witnesses, then they are just viewed as they were before they became one of

Jehovah’s Witnesses.

Just dont do anything 'apostate' and you can throw this in any snooping elders face...its a matter of public record...

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Day One After Armgeddon written by a JW awaiting the Big A w/eager expectation - Warning: LOOOONG!!!

by Eve Deceived in

once we found out we were all witnesses, we all hugged.

now we just had to see if our kingdom hall was still standing.

when we came to the hall we had such a huge shock.. there were so many people there.

Aussie Oz

Why didnt the writer mention that Brother Daniel drove up to the convention in his 1928 V16 Cadillac?

Perhaps Prince David was using it that day...

Oz...off to clean the puke off his keyboard

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Ethnic language Congs. are closing here due to no young people!!!

by Witness 007 in

Aussie Oz

The JWs will follow the pattern of small towns and localities throughout Australia (if not the world)

In the 1940s our little towns were full of life, few had cars and most rode a horse. Hell the farmers in my district did not transition from draft horse to tractor till into the 1960s

By the 1980s these little towns of 100 people were all but gone save for a pub and a store and ten years on most of that had gone as well. A drive through country australia reveals a host of ghost towns, populated by 10 people and no hotels or shops...they all got boarded up years ago as cars made travelling further faster the norm. Nobody needed to stay in these little places, there was no work, the farmers couldnt afford to employ them and so the towns died.

I feel its a pretty good analogy of religion too.

Our local town lost its minister last year and the church didn't replace him...the country is full of churches that are now homes as the only attendees in the towns are oldies who have been 'faithful' since they were born. Their children were less inclined and the grandchildren have no godly interest at all. The manse is rented out now and the church sees a travelling minister once a month.

Jehovah's Witnesses will go the same way in country australia. One day, vibrant congs in towns of 10,000 or less will be nothing more than a familiy or two of old originals or those who bought a cheap house in a dead town and can't move out. The kids will have gone to the city and got busy trying to make living and the grandkids will bail the religion at 14.

One day, the run down kingdom hall that was built by the locals long before quickbuilds and loans from the society were the norm will be host to a visiting speaker once or twice a month and the rest of the time the 'congregation' will be kept together by a handfull of old sisters valiantly following the watchtower study and going door to door for a couple of hours.

The ethnic congregations, although in larger cities are essentially, a small town in themselves. There may be only a few thousand of whatever ethnic group surrounded by tens of thousands of regular australians (if there is such a thing now) Even these ethnic groups will slowly die as its only the oldies that still dont speak english keeping them going. All the 'clubs' for ethnic groups have opened their doors to anyone for a dollar because they know if they dont change the 'club' will be gone in just a few years.

The difference is that the JWs wont change for a million dollars and there lays their demise.

Oz (sorry for the log post...i got all literary for a while)